5 ways to improve your negotiation skills

Network in Advance - Build Emotional Equity

Never go to meetings directly to negotiate what you want. Get to know them, build the connection, try to help them out on something that they are trying to work out and so defiantly this will build up your emotional equity with them where they will become more comfortable, will have trust and you will have a higher chance of convincing them to your proposals.

Envision Your Conversation in Advance

Its always good to have a game plan. It doesn't say that the conversation will flow as you planned but definitely you are prepared for all the cross questions and

ඇලෙක්ස්ගේ ආදරය

ඇලෙක්ස් පිස්සුවෙන් වගේ ආදරේ කලේ මුලු ලෝකයම අමතක කරලා..
ඉහලට පහළ ට යන හුස්මක් ගානේ දෙවියන්ට කන්නලව් කලේ එයාගේ ජීවිතයට සතුට ලගාකර දෙන්න කියලා.. පුලුවන් හැම වෙලාවකම ලගින්ම හිටියේ එයාගේ හිත ගොඩාක් අය රිද්දපු නිසා.. ලැබෙන හැම අවස්ථාවවක්ම ලස්සන කලේ ඒ අදුරු අතීතයෙන් එයාව බේරාගෙන එයාට සතුට විතරක් ලගාකර දෙන්න හිතපු නිසා..
ඒත් දැන් ඒ හැම දෙයක්ම වෙනස් වෙලා..
ආදරයෙන් තුරුල් කරගත්ත, හැම මොහොතක්ම හදවතින්ම වැළදගත්ත ඒ අපූරු බැදීම, ඒ අහිංසක ආදරය සුන්දර මතකයක් විතරක් වෙලා..
ලගින් හිටියත් එයා ගොඩාක් දුරස් වෙලා.. අභියෝග මැදින් ඇලෙක්ස් එයාට ලං වුනේ කිසිම දිනක මේ වගේ ඈත් වෙන්න නම් නොවේ..
ඒත් සියලු දෑ අනිත්‍යයි.. හැගීම් අවිනිශ්චිතයි. ජීවිතය පුදුමාකාරයි..
මේ හැම දෙයක්ම ඇලෙක්ස් දිනපොතේ සටහන් කලේ තවත් එක් පරිච්ඡේදයක් ලෙසටයි.

-නිමි-

Blinking Stars

Loads of stars up in the sky

Just together blinking alike

Each of them has a very own story

Light years away all lonely

I was her little one

I was her little one,

She loved me day and night

Taught me little things and hugged me like a child

When she was sad, I cried

When she was happy, I smiled

It was a fairytale, truly it was one..

One day she got a gift,

From her very favourite one

She was happy and excited, she took it into her arm,

She had a grin on her face, because it was unexpected

She wanted it to be happy and she did what it takes

She spent all her time, looking at it growing

it was so lovely to see her courage and effort in it

Days and nights were passed, weeks and months were gone

I was sitting at the same dusty corner

Looking at them everyday..

She didn't bother to talk, she didn't bother to care,

Her new friend is a puppy, who could make her happy

As I always do, I love to see her happy

But I am the little doll, she forgot and dumped away

Big Bang, Milky Way, Earth and Life

Sometimes after life excites me, finally we get to know what's real.. life is short, and everyone knows, Planet earth a tiny invisible dot even in our very own galaxy, the milky way. When we compare it with the universe, someone can simply ignore the existence of planet earth, just like we ignore decimal points / millimetres / milligrams etc. in our day to day life. Because when you look at the big picture, planet earth doesn't even exists.

Well, scientists say 14 billion years ago, its all started "The Big Bang". 4 billion years ago planet earth was born. 3.5 billion years ago life on earth started and about 200,000 years ago humans came into the picture. Its amazing if we have answers to all our Whys! and Hows! about life on planet earth.

So these numbers of evolution are massive and we are a part of it. However, we human live only for maximum 70 years (modern days its 70, it was less than this for human in previous eras), Bowhead whales can live up to 200 years and even dinosaurs life span was about 75 to 300 years. so when we average this out just to get an idea of what is the average life span of a living species that will come to around 135 years.

Every other thing is calculated in billion years, but living species get to live only 135 years. So when scientifically thinking, don't you think this is just a short term experiment of someone and we are inside a test tube where we have been given a chance to prove it... woah! I'm excited..

May be a life changing point..

Well, I consider this as a new chapter of my life. So far I have taken enough crap and processed them, suffered, cried and wasted my valuable time significantly. I wanted to get rid of this and invest my emotions, capacity and my existing knowledge in something useful to keep my self occupied, and especially get rid of all the stupid and useless things I have been doing.

So I was actively looking for a new hobby to keep my self occupied. As I enjoy doing many things, I tried so many options, photography, music, writing, traveling, movies, video editing, gaming you name it. Nothing helped me to feel the ultimate satisfaction and specially to keep my mind happy. I don't know the approach I am taking to get rid of something is right, but I believe what I have figured would do some good as it is something useful.

So my inner voice told me to learn something new everyday, so you will not get bored by repeating the same thing, same hobby over and over again.

I believe my new hobby "learning at least one new thing a day" would help me to be a complete human being. Also I see that it gives me the opportunity to explore new subjects, read things on many things, try new experiences and also have my own opinion on various topics.  This helps me to hack my brain, heart and soul. I believe that one day or may be day to day I can teach the things I learn to anybody who is willing to learn.

So far my interest area is psychology and how brain works. Today I learnt how to memorise things and how to get rid of anxiety. Pretty interesting and defiantly I can summarise it for you very soon. :)

Okay fine, let me write

You were special, close to my heart,

You said the other day no fun apart.

A part of me becomes part of you,

True friendship I've found in you.

You made me to believe, best friends exist

When I wasn't around you said that you miss

What happened to us oh what happened

Am I that stupid to understand?

I think we are going through some cloudy days,

But you've been my sunshine in so many ways

Though trials and tests, right by me you stood,

and gave me your hand whenever you could.

I wish if I can put things back together

I wish the days to come back as they were

Then I'd start all over and choose a different route
To make you understand my feelings that want out.

අකීකරු සිත මගේ..

නු වෘත්තාන්තයක් දෛවයේ තවත්

සිතෙයි එක් විටෙක නිම් නැති කතාවක් දැයි

පුන පුනා මට කියන්නට යන

මිහිරි වූ ඒ විරහව

තවත් ඉවසන්නට බැරි වග

දැන දැන..

මම තවමත් නුඹට පෙම් කරන්නේ

කිමදැයි මම නොදනිමි..

අහෝ.. මෙය සරදමක්ද..

නැතිනම් දඩුවමක්ද..

කියන්නට ඇති දෑ බොහෝමැයි..

එනමුත් මසිත නුඹට නොඇසෙයි..

ලංවන්නද නැතිනම් සමුගන්නද?

මේ කුමක් වුවත් ඉරණම අනන්‍යයි..

සිහින මාලිගා තනන්නට අවසර නැතිමුත්..

නුඹ සමඟ යන්නෙමි මෙලෙස සංසාර ගමන..

ආවඩා සඳ..

සබඳ, නුඹ නොදන්නා තතු කරළියට ගෙන එන්ට
අවසරයි මට අද සිට..
නිම් නෑති සිහිනයක් දකින අහංකාර සන්තාප්යට,
දඬුවම් කරන්ට වාරු නෑ මට..
කවුද නුඹ.. ආවඩා සඳ මා එක්ක සල්ලාපයට..
දඟකාර සිතිවිලි සායම් කර යසට,
ස්වප්න විමානයක ඉපිලෙන සකි නුඹ,
ලෑගුම් ගනු මේ තෑන මා සමඟ..
නුඹගේ ඔය මාංසල අරටුව,
විවර කරනු මෑන,
බලනු මාගේ දෑස දෙස..
කියනු කුමටද මේ ලාස්‍යය.
දිගන්තය නුඹට තියා මටද හිමි නෑති වග
දෑන දෑන භක්තිය ලියලවා,
විසල් ගගන පීරා විපරම් කරන්නේ කුමක්ද?
නිදෑල්ලේ සෑරිසරන කල්පනා නුඹට
සඟවන්නට ඈත්තේ තව කුමක්ද?

My dear..

When I don't see that

Beautiful smile on your face

Teardrops roll down my face

Pulling my hair

And running here and there

Thinking how to carve that beauty

Back on your face...

You can call me crazy, nut or a pain

I don't care and don't know how to explain

But one thing I know it for sure

Almighty wants me to love you more my dear...

I know I'm from nowhere

But you taught me that

Is not only by blood that family is made

So I will stand by your side

Now and forever until the day I die...

You never speak about your misery

But I feel your sorrow and your pain

It hurts to see you hurt,

And it hurts to know there is nothing I can change...

I pray that happiness be at your door

May god accept all your prayers

May all your worries go away

And the sun shine brighter and brighter everyday...

I want you to know that I love you

And I want you to know how special you are

The day you see yourself through our eyes

you will realize what I really mean...

A Duet..

You've made me happier than I've ever been

And I want to thank you for all the love you give

I will do anything to make you smile

And be there for you when you are in need

Thank you for the promise you made,

And as well for you in kind and deed

Kind words and love is rare

Glad to know that someone really cares

It takes one to know and receive,

Not all who are given embrace it does dare

Treasuring it as a precious gem,

Because it’s something I've never seen

Young and vibrant you'll live and learn,
Treasure every moment with the highest esteem

It was dark and the path wasn’t clear,

Now an angel teaching me to efface the fear

An angel can only light the path,

It’s up to you to walk my dear

Was left alone ever since I know

At least now I have someone to show

God is gracious and knows our needs,

And sends his 'angels' our paths to glow

Did anyone ever tell you, just how special you are

The light that you emit might even light a star..

Stars are far away and beyond my reach,

I'd rather light a life and be there for them

Your kindness is the biggest gift of god

It makes you beautiful and really strong

The Lord has taught me along the way

His grace has sustained me when my heart failed

Not many understand and not many do care,

They take me for granted and my heart they tare

Evilness is everywhere

But you will find hearts truly care

When we are down they are the first to know

They will do anything to make our face glow

There are some, who understand,

There is other who takes good care

Yet there are those who use you well

And wait to see the day you fall

Twinkle twinkle little star

You are a doll with curly hair

Up and down the world she flies

She is just like a pretty butterfly

Butterfly Butterfly listen to me

Don't fly far away from me

You are also a butterfly,

Keep up keep and fly with me

My wings are tiny I fear I'd fall

Teach me how to fly up so high

It’s not the size of the wing that matter,

But the will and the courage to soar above

Both the eagle and the sparrow spread their wings and ride the wind

Tiny butterfly needs your love
She knows then she can ride the wind

අම්මා ඔබ මට..

පුංචි කාලේ සුරතලේට 

කම්මුල් සිප නොගත්තාට,

හඬනා විට නලවන්නට 

බෝනික්කෝ නොදුන්නාට

සෙවනැල්ලක් වී සිටි වග 

වැටහෙන්නේ දැනුයි මෙමට

අම්මේ ඔබගේ සෙනෙහස 

දැනෙන්නේ මහ මෙරක් උසට..

මම එනතුරු බලා ඉන්නේ 

තවමත් නොනිදා හැමවිට

මට බඩහිනි වන විට 

තවමත් බෑ ඉවසන්න ඔබට

ඔබ මං වෙනුවෙන් කල දෑ

සිහියට නැගෙනා විට මට

කඳුලැලි සිපගන්නේ 

මගෙ නෙත ගත හදවත උණුකර.. 

ආසයි මට නැලවෙන්නට 

තුරුලේ ඔබගේ හැම දින

පිං මදි වී වෙන් වෙන්නට 

කාලය ලංවී ඇත මට

මේ ලොව මා දුටු කිසිවෙකු 

ලඟ නැත ඔබගේ ගුණදම්

රකිනෙමි දිවි ඇති තෙක් 

උගත් සුගුණ මම ඔබගෙන්..

Happy Day...

An angel from above was smiling bright..
Early in the morning reflecting light..
Way up high in outer space,
That big wide smile just made my day..

ඇය..

හිරු නොනැගෙන වසන්තයක්,
ගැන සිතනා හද මඩලක්..
අමාවක සැන්දෑවේ,
සඳ රැස් විහිද සැලෙනා කල්..
පිපෙනා මල් පර නොවෙනා
ලෝකයකට පෙරුම් පුරණ..
දෙව් ලොවකට උරුම කියන
පාරමි මුණගැසුණා මට..
සත් ගුණවත් සන්තාපයේ
සිහින මාලිගා තනනා කල,
ලෝකයටම එළිය ගෙනෙන,
සුභාෂිණිය වූවා ඇය..
සැමගේ සිත සනසන,
නිවහල් ඔසුවක් වූ සඳ..
රෑ අහසේ තරු අතරේ,
තනි වෙන්නට එපා තවත්..
ඔබ පතනා ප්‍රාර්ථනා,
ඔබේ පිවිතුරු ආයාචනා,
මතු දිනකදී සුවඳැති මල් යායක් වී පිබිදේවා..
ඔබේ පවර සිතුවිලි දල රල පෙළ නැග වැජඹෙවා..
ඔබ නොදන්නවා වුනාට..
ඔබේ දෙනෙතට නොපෙනුනාට..
ඔබේ සතුට පතනා මම
නිරතුරුවම ඔබ ලඟින්ම..

I'm helpless..

It's unfair... I want to cry...

Wanting a warm hug...

Thinking again...

Everyone is around, I feel I'm alone..

Why does it repeat?

Over and over again...

What is happening?

I have got no clue...

I want to cry.. Leave me alone...

Sometimes I'm happy...

Because tiny things gladden my heart,

But when everything is far away...

And nobody understands...

I'm helpless...

සසල සිත..

මම කවුද.. කිමද මේ..
අරුතක් නොදැන මා..
කෙසේ කියම්දෝ ඔබට,
වියවුල් මනසක පෑ..

සුහද බස් දොඩන්නේ,
හිඳ ගව් හතක් දුරින්..
ගැටුණු විට, නෙතට නෙත,
වෙනතක බලා යමින්..

උණු වුනේ මගේ සිත,
දැක ඔබේ සත් සුගුණ..
වදනකින් හෝ ඔබව,
සනසන්නට සිතුණි මට.

ඔබේ සිනහව පතන,
අහිංසක මගේ ලය..
ඉකි ගසා අඬන්නේ,
නොහඟවා මගේ නෙතට..

කුමක් කලාද මම?
මම දන්නේ නෑ තවම..
ඔබට ලං වන්නට,
අවසර නැතිද මට?

පොරොන්දුවක්..

කිවිඳියක් නොවුනාට, 

මාත්‍රා නොතිබුනාට,
හැඟුම්බර වදන් පෙළක් කුරුටු ගෑවේ කොළයක ඔබ,
නොසිතූ ලෙස මසිත තුල,
සඟවනමුත් ඔබ ලොවට ස්නේහය,
ගෙන පන්හිඳ කරට,
පබැඳ වදනින් වදන අරුත ගෙන,
අකලංක බැඳීමක් අභිසෙස් කලා ඔබ,
චින්තනයේ අනන්තයට,
දිව ගොස් පද සිතුවම් කොට,
සෙනෙහෙ මුසු කොට වියා පද වැල,
සිප ගත්තා ඔබ, අහින්සක හද මඩල..

ගයන්නට ඔබේ ගුණ, නෑ මේ දුභලායා ලඟ වචන

ඔබේ පවර චිත්තය දැක,

මගේ සියුම් සිත් යායට

දෝරගලා ආ සෙනෙහස

දැනුනේ මහමෙරක් උසට..

ශෝචනීය දසාව අඳුරේ තනි කර දමා ඉතින්,

මෙතැන් පටන් සිනහව පමණයි අත් වන්නේ ඔබ හට..

ලෙන්ගතු සිත..

ඔබ නොදන්නවා වුනාට, 

ඔබෙ දෙනෙතට නොපෙනුනාට,

දිව්‍ය අංඟනාවක් ඈ, සුර ලෝකයේ එළිය දුටුව.. 

ලෙන්ගතු හදවතක අරුත..

තනිවූ මොහොතක සිතන්න,

කඩඉම් නැති ආදර සිත 

ඔබත් එක්ක ඉන්නා බව, 

නොනිමෙන තුටු දැල් දල්වන..

යටගිය වංහුං මොකටද,

සෙනෙහස් රැස් විහිදෙන කල,

හුදෙකලාව නැත කිසි කල,

ඔබේ ගුණවත් සිත් මඩලට..

සමනල සංධවනිය මට ඇසුන හැටි..

විටෙක ඇසෙන විටෙක නොඇසෙන අහිංසක හැඟීමක් වටා ගෙතුනු ඉතා සංවේදී අමුතුම කතාවක් යැයි පැවසුවොත් මා නිවැරදිය. මෙම චීත්‍රපටය නරඹන විට මගේ සිතට නැගුණු හැඟීම් බොහෝය, කිමද මෙම කතාව අප කාගේත් ජීවිතයේ සිටින ඒ ව්ශේෂ, අපිට ලං විය නොහැකි වුවත් අමුතු බැඳීමක් ඇතැයි සිතෙන, අසාමාන්‍ය වූ නමුත් අතිපිවිතුරු, සුමිහිරි මතකයන් ගෙන එන, ඒ සුන්දර වූ හෘදස්පන්දනයයි. මෙය වචනයට හෝ සමාජයේ පිලිගත් මතිමතාන්තර වලට හෝ සීමා කල නොහැකි එකකි. වාධීශ නැමති චරිතයද එවැනි අත්දැකීමකට මුහුණ දෙන අහිංසක චරිතයකි.

Leaving it for something better

Yes my heading gives a bad impression at the first glance, but here I am talking about the job I am doing. I am an innate marketing person and its time to take strategic initiatives to reach my career aspirations. Currently I am in a finance

position even though it has market research and analysis. Some people can call this as a fundamental mistake but I think all happened because life wanted me to learn some more. Well, I was offered a job in a multinational advertising firm and the current job I am doing. I was so excited because both the options are great. I did my best at the initial selection process for the position at the advertising firm but I the best story is about the current job I am doing.

I got a call from my current employer when I was at KFC exactly 19 months before. I was a bit surprised and didn't even care because I knew even if I go to this interview I would not get it. So what I did was I just forgot about it and was really excited about the job offer at the advertising firm. Because I knew I can perform very well.